By Victoria DiMartino, Staff Writer
Is there ever a right time for love? Whether it is a pandemic or just a regular Thursday, sometimes it feels like no matter what we do there will never be a good time to search for our soulmate. While right now is especially challenging, I couldn’t help but wonder, are we always finding an excuse to avoid love?
Whether it’d be risking a potential heartbreak, or risking a potential outbreak, it seems that no matter what the circumstances are, love always wants to challenge us. I mean can Cupid just cut us a break and drop our true love into our lap already?
This pandemic has had psychological effects on all of us, the stats have been researched and are starting to come in. Our mental health seems to especially be at an all-time low, our chances for social interaction have been limited or almost completely cutoff, and we all just stare at a screen all day. I mean it is a pretty bleak existence at the moment. But is that a cause or an excuse for a pause on love?
I mean the expression is something like, “it’ll happen when you least expect it” and I don’t know about you, but I don’t expect any great loves to come out of this pandemic at the moment. Though, I think I could be totally wrong. I mean with all the time inside and with all the time we’ve had to ourselves and our thoughts, maybe this pandemic has offered us the pause and reflection we have so desperately needed.
People have started their own businesses that they have dreamed of for years, others have decided that school just isn’t for them and don’t want to waste any more time or money, and others have decided who they want to keep in their life and who they are okay with dropping. So, if there was ever a “perfect” time for love, now might be it .
Yes, our mental health is probably in the trash can, but we also might be thinking the most clearly that we have in years. You might have stepped out of your house after months of this pandemic knowing that you don’t want to waste anymore of your time or energy on people who aren’t as emotionally mature as you, or maybe you decided that you want to travel for the rest of your life when it’s safe again, or maybe you’ve decided that you want to find your soulmate now instead of in ten years.
Whatever you’ve come to terms with it is probably something that you have a much clearer insight on thanks to all that time inside. So, now that you know what you want, should you go for it?
I know, I know, we’ve been talking over and over about how to go on a date and is it worth the risk and every nagging question about love that there is, but I’m not talking about any of that. I’m talking about you, and your thoughts, and what you think after all this time on the inside of your own mind. Are you ready? Now, it is also a possibility too that you do know what you want and you do know all the things you want to achieve because of the COVID-19 20/20 insight, but maybe you’re like me and you’re just not in the same place you were mentally before this all started.
Maybe you are ready, but you know that the person that you want to be with isn’t. Or maybe you are ready, but the person you want to be with isn’t the type of person who lives in your area, let alone your country. And if that’s all true, what the heck do you do now?
How do you settle with this feeling that you are ready for love, you want to find it, you want to grab it while you have the chance, but there are…obstacles. And there it is again, love and its obstacles.
I’ve spent this whole time hyping you up, making you feel like you can go out and grab love and bring it close, and that now is absolutely the right time for love. But that’s the thing, it is up to you when it is the right time for love. The conditions have always varied for every person, the circumstances in your life change and right now seems to be the only time where this one obstacle fits all of us. But, the pandemic is only one obstacle for you. And maybe you’ve already climbed over that hurdle. Maybe you’re done with this and you’re ready to move on to the next.
So, why don’t you?
Nothing is stopping you, only yourself.
